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My son’s girlfriend is trying to drive a wedge between us. What do I do?

My son and his girlfriend are both 18, and have been dating for just over a year. Three months into their relationship she got pregnant, something I believe she did intentionally, knowing he would do his best to stay with her if she had his child. I recognize his part, I just think the pregnancy was only accidental to him.
During the course of her pregnancy she was whiny and demanding, and frequently told him he wasn’t a good boyfriend because (for her reason of the moment). He essentially abandoned all of his friends for hers, since she only wanted to be with hers. He began spending all of his time with her and her family, who are nice people, but very structured and demanding, with many extended relatives with expectations thatch will attend every single birthday party, Sunday lunch, evening meal, etc, etc, etc.
After the baby was born, she began to control him by telling him he wasn’t a good father whenever he didn’t do what she wanted. And what she wants is to keep him with her, so he can pay for things, take care of the baby, and basically be her grunt.
They began spending all of their time together, probably 60% at her parents’ house, and 40% at
ours. I have worked hard to develop a good relationship with her, although some of the things she says and does really bother me. For instance… her car got hit and had a dent in the passenger door. She made her mother drive it, and she drover her mom’s. She refused to drive it because of the dent. When she is at our house, she rarely does anything to help. Instead, she leaves her dirty dishes on the table, baby formula sitting on the counter, wet diapers in the den. We never say anything. We’ve been very generous with our son, with the baby, and with her. Everyone contributes to the baby’s upbringing but her. When they are here, my son does much of the baby’s care. It’s my understanding that when she is at home, her mother is the primary caregiver.
My son is working out of town for much of each week this summer. Since this began, she takes the baby to day care every day. We hired her ton watch our other son, who is 9, every other week, so she drops the baby off at day care, lays on my couch or at the pool all day, then picks up the baby, drops him at her house, and goes out forth evening much of the time (based upon what she’s told me).
The problem is, she hasn’t been honest with my son, telling him she takes the baby to daycare 3 days per week rather than the actual 5, and that she is at my house rather late each night, because I get home late. In the position I hold now, I am at home by 4pm.
Most recently, they are preparing for college. She will be attending a local 4 year college. He will be attending a community college, to earn an associates and provide for his family, with plans for further education a later possibility. According to a text she sent me, the community college was “the only place he could get into”. She texted, demanding to known if we were going to help him pay for college. Despite the fact that it was none of her business, I assured her that we would figure it all out. Several days later during a phone call with my daughter, she said that we didn’t care whether or not he went to college, and that she thinks it’s sad that she cares more about him than his own parents. I cannot imagine what she has been saying to him.
I have tried a time or two to express my concerns, but his response is defensive, closed, and he simply doesn’t listen.
Its difficult enough to imagine myself committing his life to this selfish, self involved, lazy girl. It’s even more difficult to imagine not having a good relationship with my son. Since my son began working out of town, I have seen the baby two or three times, because she dumps him at day care or with her mom, and when my son is home she pretends to be so exhausted from being a single mothering his absence that she dumps the baby, and demands my son’s undivided attention (unless, of course it’s before noon, in which case she doesn’t care whobtakes care of the baby, as long as she can sleep.)
I absolutely don’t want to cause a feud, nor do I want to cause friction with my son. Right now he spends as much time here as she will allow, and with the exception of this huge blind spot, we have a good relationship. He simply sees what she shows him… that she’s an amazing mother, a wonderful girlfriend, and rIght about everything!
How do I deal with this? I don’t want to pretend to like her. It seems dishonest, and seems as though I should be at least attempting to pull him put of the center of the street before the mac truck of reality runs him over. Yet I know he won’t listen. Help!

It’s not really a question.. just venting…?

Okay, so I’m just basically going to write what I’m thinking right now and I don’t know you can write back or something. The reason I put this on here is because I don’t really have anyone else to talk to about it.

My life is just going through major changes and I don’t know if I like them/ whether or not I can keep them. I’m Jamaican and so are my parents. I come from a place where homo sexuality is not acceptable. I have always been taught that it warrants death (Jamaica), but I do not feel that way. I recently moved to Montreal for a school. Mtl is a very liberal city and there are gay people everywhere. I became really close to this one gay guy who is my best friend here and this weekend we really talked about everything. I’ve always thought of him as not being gay because then its “okay” for me to be friends with him. He basically told me that he did not like that and that it wasn’t okay that I did that. Another thing I talked about was my use of the word fag, faggot, gay and homosexual and how I use them all on a daily basis. Basically I’m scared of being okay with homosexuality. I’m scared of change. My whole life I’ve been indoctrinated by the Jamaican culture and the Christian religion that it is wrong. I know now that it is not a choice and I truly believe this because who would want to go through that… My friends and family are not liberal in this subject at all and whenever I call home they ask me how the fags are and what not. One really good friend of mine actually talks about how they should all be burned, all the time. I’m scared of going back home and being changed because I know that I will be persecuted and made a mockery of by EVERYONE. My gay friend asked me if I even wanted to be friends and I cried because I love him so much and of course I want to be his friend and I’m trying but it’s so hard. It’s so hard to be different and I know that what gay people go through is a million times worse. My brothers friend (and mine as well) committed suicide at the age of 13 because he was bullied based on his sexuality. I want to change for him but when it’s the norm for 19 years of your life how do you just, change? I’m just scared to be the person I am here, at home.

What do you think… I know its weird and I just don’t know anymore. I can’t talk to any of my friends back home and I cant really talk to the gay friend because he thinks that I’m not trying hard enough. I love him for who he is and I almost don’t want him to be gay.. I want us to just be good friends without the sometimes awkwardness that comes when he says something like boy friend or I say something like faggot. I don’t know how to handle this anymore by myself. I feel like my whole like/self is changing and I have no say in it. Please understand that I don’t discriminate against gay people, I would just not go to a wedding and I just don’t want to hear about it. It’s almost like the don’t ask don’t tell policy except for I do this with everyone. I don’t want to know anyone’s sexual business, gay or straight.

I don’t know, is it normal that I feel this way? I ughhh.. sigh. Thanks.

Naming a Business?

I am going to open a shop that will sell mostly high quality Vietamese decorative planting pots and fountains. My shop is set up so that I can also have “areas” where I can present other products. There will be other types of “gardening and patio” items sold, such as home-made bird houses, hand-crafted woodworked cedar chests, tables, benches, and cabinets. I have connections in these industries that guarantees I will have the best prices or the only available product. The shop will be located in Gulf Shores, Alabama. Gulf Shores is also called Pleasure Island. My first name is Tracey and my partners name is Melissa. Based on this information what would be a good name for the shop?
Great Answers so far (except McDreamy) Thanks to everybody, keep them coming!!!

Can you translate my personal statement into spanish please?

Setting my mind to develop my career on this field was based on the fact that I have always admired the work of pharmacists, because of their philanthropic personalities. My choice of applying to this course was based on many reasons the most important of them is that I enjoy doing practical work and always show enthusiasm in it, as well ¬as enjoying science subjects and maths therefore showing a higher success in them compared to other subjects. Moreover I have always fascinated and inspired watching my father and my mother who are specialised in dentistry and medicine, taking care of patients and trying all their best to change their emotions.
My greatest stimulation was from the Arabic pharmacist Ibn Al-Baitar who moved this science a giant step forward by writing many books on this field, he is still used as a source of knowledge after more than seven hundred years of his death.
Throughout the last six year, I have maintained a huge range of skills and abilities that make me dependable to establish my future career as a pharmacist. Currently I am doing advanced higher maths and chemistry along with higher physics and computing, I think that I can tackle many difficult problems using the knowledge I gained during the last few years or even bring skills from higher computing, physics and level A Arabic that can directly assist me to make my way simpler.

I have participated in many school events, activities and duties, such as attending many biology and chemistry school trips which triggered my passion to specialise more in this field in future life, helping first years in their S.E. classes. Furthermore I have volunteered to do number partner which involves helping pupils from first years who are struggling in maths by doing games. In addition I have been a member in the drop in centre, peer support training, and took part in organising maths challenges and raising charity money for shoe box appeal and Christmas parsel. Doing Pair support reading three times a week during registration time is one of the duties I picked to when I attended the peer support meeting as a seiner pupil in Harris Academy; it is based on helping younger pupils improve their English reading skills and speed.
Before summer many members of sixth year including me helped organising three days for the first years to visit Harris Academy, explore the building, be prepared to the complete new way of education. As a result to all those activities, I have also benefited myself by increasing my cooperative work, communication skills and teaching methods.
On my studies aside, I occupy myself with many activities after school and during weekends like socialising with friends, playing badminton and video games, practice swimming once in a while, playing chest and keeping in touch with my friends and relatives back home.

I have taken in consideration that being a pharmacist is a big responsibility as it needs a lot of courage, determination and patience, a step from all the hobbies and interests I do on daily bases I would end by giving them up. On the contrary I would be grateful to have the honour to do pharmacy in the future.
In twenty years time I can visualise myself operating my own business with my cousin who is doing the same course at the moment.

Can you translate my personal statement into spanish please?

Setting my mind to develop my career on this field was based on the fact that I have always admired the work of pharmacists, because of their philanthropic personalities. My choice of applying to this course was based on many reasons the most important of them is that I enjoy doing practical work and always show enthusiasm in it, as well ¬as enjoying science subjects and maths therefore showing a higher success in them compared to other subjects. Moreover I have always fascinated and inspired watching my father and my mother who are specialised in dentistry and medicine, taking care of patients and trying all their best to change their emotions.
My greatest stimulation was from the Arabic pharmacist Ibn Al-Baitar who moved this science a giant step forward by writing many books on this field, he is still used as a source of knowledge after more than seven hundred years of his death.
Throughout the last six year, I have maintained a huge range of skills and abilities that make me dependable to establish my future career as a pharmacist. Currently I am doing advanced higher maths and chemistry along with higher physics and computing, I think that I can tackle many difficult problems using the knowledge I gained during the last few years or even bring skills from higher computing, physics and level A Arabic that can directly assist me to make my way simpler.

I have participated in many school events, activities and duties, such as attending many biology and chemistry school trips which triggered my passion to specialise more in this field in future life, helping first years in their S.E. classes. Furthermore I have volunteered to do number partner which involves helping pupils from first years who are struggling in maths by doing games. In addition I have been a member in the drop in centre, peer support training, and took part in organising maths challenges and raising charity money for shoe box appeal and Christmas parsel. Doing Pair support reading three times a week during registration time is one of the duties I picked to when I attended the peer support meeting as a seiner pupil in Harris Academy; it is based on helping younger pupils improve their English reading skills and speed.
Before summer many members of sixth year including me helped organising three days for the first years to visit Harris Academy, explore the building, be prepared to the complete new way of education. As a result to all those activities, I have also benefited myself by increasing my cooperative work, communication skills and teaching methods.
On my studies aside, I occupy myself with many activities after school and during weekends like socialising with friends, playing badminton and video games, practice swimming once in a while, playing chest and keeping in touch with my friends and relatives back home.

I have taken in consideration that being a pharmacist is a big responsibility as it needs a lot of courage, determination and patience, a step from all the hobbies and interests I do on daily bases I would end by giving them up. On the contrary I would be grateful to have the honour to do pharmacy in the future.
In twenty years time I can visualise myself operating my own business with my cousin who is doing the same course at the moment.